Mindful Grieving

These are books, articles, videos and other items of interest which have helped me along my way. Some are mentioned in Dancing in My Mother’s Slippers. Others are books about grief, healing and spirituality I’ve enjoyed reading at other times in my life. Many are books I refer to frequently. I’ve also included some memoirs and autobiographical works I like.  — Fayegail

Aigen, Rabbi Ronald. Renew Our Days: A Book of Jewish Prayer and Meditation. Montreal: Congregation Dorshei Emet, 1996. This is my favorite prayer book, and it contains my favorite translation of Psalm 30 (on page 99). It also contains “A Family Prayer,” by J. Harry Berger, (on page 601) which I adapted for Ben and Julia’s wedding.

Albom, Mitch. Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, A Young Man and Life’s Greatest Lesson. New York: Doubleday, 1997.

Bartholomew. “I Come as a Brother”: A Remembrance of Illusions. Taos, New Mexico: High Mesa, 1984.

———. From the Heart of a Gentle Brother. Taos, New Mexico: High Mesa, 1987.

———. Reflections Of An Elder Brother: Awakening from the Dream. Taos, New Mexico: High Mesa, 1989.

———. Planetary Brother. Taos, New Mexico: High Mesa, 1991.

———. Journeys with a Brother, Japan to India: Bartholomew and the Dalai Lama in the Himalaya. Taos, New Mexico: High Mesa, 1995.

Bloomfield, Harold H., Melva Colgrove, and Peter McWilliams. How to Survive the Loss of a Love. Algonac, MI: Mary Books/Prelude Press, 2000.

Brener, Anne. Mourning & Mitzvah: A Guided Journal for Walking the Mourner’s Path Through Grief to Healing. Woodstock, Vermont: Jewish Lights, 1993.

Byock, Ira. Dying Well: Peace and Possibilities at the End of Life. 1997. New York: Riverhead, 1998.

Callanan, Maggie, and P. Kelley. Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs and Communications of the Dying. 1992. New York: Bantam, 1997.

Chopra, Deepok. The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. San Rafael, California: Amber-Allen and New World Library, 1994.

Eliot, George. Daniel Daronda. Vol. 16-18 of The Writings of George Eliot. Boston and New York: Houghton Mifflin, 1908.

Gilman, Dorothy. A New Kind of Country. New York: Fawcett Crest, 1978.

Hine, Virginia. Last Letter to the Pebble People: “Aldie Soars.” Santa Cruz, CA: Unity Press, 1979.

Hogan, Marty. Sacred Vigil: Tools to Comfort and Support the Dying Person and Their Caregiver through the Vigiling Process. Medford, OR: 2006.

James, John W., and Russell Friedman. The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses, 20th Anniversary Expanded Edition. New York: Harper-Collins, 2009.

Jampolsky, Gerald G. Love is Letting Go of Fear, rev. ed. Berkeley, California: Celestial Arts, 1988.

Kaufman, Barry Neil. Happiness is a Choice. New York: Fawcett Columbine, 1991.

———. To Love Is To Be Happy With. New York: Fawcett Columbine, 1977.

Kaufman, Barry Neil, and Samharia Lyte Kaufman. A Sacred Dying. New York: Fawcett Columbine, 1996.

Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth. On Death and Dying. New York: Touchstone, 1969.

———. Death: The Final Stage of Growth. Englewood Cliffs, New Jersey: Prentice-Hall, 1975.

———. Living with Death and Dying. 1981. New York: Macmillan, 1982.

———. The Wheel of Life: A Memoir of Living and Dying. 1997. New York: Touchstone, 1998.

L’Engle, Madeleine. A Circle of Quiet. The Crosswicks Journal Book 1. San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 1972.

———. The Summer of the Great Grandmother. The Crosswicks Journal Book 2. San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 1974.

———. The Irrational Season. The Crosswicks Journal Book 3. San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 1977.

———. Two Part Invention. The Crosswicks Journal Book 4. San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 1988.

Lamm, Maurice. Consolation. Philadelphia: The Jewish Publication Society, 2004.

Lamott, Anne. Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life.1994. New York: Anchor Books, 1995.

Lerner, Harriet Goldhor. The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships. New York: Harper & Row, 1985.

Levine, Stephen. A Year to Live. New York: Bell Tower, 1997.

Moyers, Bill, and Judith Moyers. On Our Own Terms: Moyers on Dying. A four-part PBS series by television journalist Bill Moyers that focuses on end-of-life care in the US. The videotape and related resources about end-of-life issues are available on this exceptional Website: www.pbs.org/wnet/onourownterms, and other valuable resources are available on this PBS Web site: www.pbs.org/witheyesopen.

Neeld, Elizabeth Harper. Seven Choices: Finding Daylight after Loss Shatters Your World. New York: Warner Books, 2003.

Perlman, Debbie. Flames to Heaven. Wilmette, Illinois: RadPublisers, 1998.

Pipher, Mary. Another Country. 1998. New York: Riverhead, 1999.

Rando, Therese A. How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies. 1988. New York: Bantam, 1991.

Remen, Rachel Naomi. Kitchen Table Wisdom. 1996. New York: Riverhead, 1997.

———. My Grandfather’s Blessings. New York: Riverhead, 2000.

Richards, Paul, and Patty Richards. Energetic Empowerment Level One: Path, Practice, and State of Being. Ashland, Oregon: The Senté Center for Energetic Studies, 1999. For more information about this body of work, visit this Web site: www.sentecenter.com.

Schmall, V.L., S. Bowman, and D.G. Vorhies. Driving Decisions in Later Life. Pacific Northwest Extension publication # PNW 0510. October, 1998. 28 pages. To purchase online:

Simmons, Philip. Learning to Fall: The Blessings of an Imperfect Life. New York: Bantam Books, 2000.

Stern, Chaim, ed. Gates of Prayer for Weekdays and at a House of Mourning. New York, Central Conference of American Rabbis, 1992.

Thomas, Richard. The Essiac Report: Canada’s Remarkable Unknown Cancer Remedy. Immunocorp, 1994.

Veary, Nana. Change We Must: My Spiritual Journey. Blue Hill, Maine: Medicine Bear, 1990.

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